Some of the girls at work have noticed that I’ve lost weight, that I’m looking healthy. (YAY! Non scale victory!) naturally they wanted to know how I’m doing it. “What’s your secret? What diet are you on? What workouts are you doing? Are you doing the apple cider vinegar thing?” Ew. No. The secret is there is no secret. The fitness industry makes millions of dollars perpetuating the hope that there is a secret, a magic pill, just one little thing we’re all missing, and it’s just not true. The key is listening to your body. Give yourself permission to eat. Give yourself permission to eat. Move your body in any way that you can commit to doing regularly. Something you actually enjoy, something that challenges you but does not hurt you. If there’s any secret it’s this: be consistent.
You didn’t get 10,20,30,100 pounds overweight in a day, so do not expect to lose that much weight in a day! My friend showed me a magazine article that said: “Lose 10LBS in 24hrs!” It’s this kind of sick, predatory nonsense that keeps us at war with our bodies. If these articles speak to you, step away. It is not meant to help you. It is meant to dig you deeper and deeper into self hate and is just one stepping stone on an endless path of lies and trickery. If this or the scale or calories or your measurements have a hold on you, fuck it. Don’t weigh yourself if it makes you want to give up. Don’t read the magazines if you deeply desire to look like the girl in the magazine (pst, she doesn’t even look like that!) Don’t count calories if it launches you into an obsessive pattern of always thinking about food and stressing about how much less you can eat. Do not spend another second at war with your body. You will reach your goals, provided they are realistic and safe for your body, with time and consistency.
This is a hard lesson to learn. I know it in my heart, it’s always in the back of my mind, yet it is so tempting to log just a little bit less food each day. It’s tempting to listen to beautiful people on instagram who sell fat burners. But don’t. Turn away. Listen to your body when it tells you to move, to eat, to rest. That is all you need. You are all you need.
So sweaty. So good.